Three years ago, on the verge of my 24th birthday, I put together a list of advice I’d learned over the years. Recently, I went back and re-read this list, and yes, it’s still a damn good collection of thoughts.
Check it out here: Twenty-three
Fast forward three years, and I am now approaching my 27th birthday. And I feel excited, I feel scared… I feel young, but I also I feel kind of old. Basically, I just have lots of feelings associated with entering my late 20’s. So it seems like an appropriate time to add three more wisdoms that I’ve learned between 24 and 27.
24. Don’t be afraid to say “No.”
There are certain things in life we are required to do if we want a certain outcome, such as showing up for work to keep our jobs, or filing taxes to keep the government off our case. When it comes to things like someone asking for your number, your attendance at a party, or even cleaning your house… by no means are you required to do anything you don’t want to. Trust me when I say, it’s okay to tell someone “no,” and it can feel really good to generally just do what you want in life. In the end, everything is up to you. Don’t ever let anyone make you feel guilty about a decision.
25. Spend the extra money on clothes that will last.
I spent most of my 20s (mind you, with a good job and money in my pocket) wearing the same clothes I had from high school because I hate shopping and I always seem to have brutal buyers remorse. But I’ve learned that certain staple articles, like shoes, coats, business casual outfits for work, jeans… they are always worth spending money on, especially if they are going to last. Plus, an updated wardrobe does wonders for your confidence (but please also refer to #12).
26. If you mean it, say it.
Especially as I get older, I notice more and more so many people have something to say, but no one wants to be direct. If it’s gossip, cut that shit out – you’re better than that. But other things are worth bringing up. If someone at work is doing something you don’t like, don’t be a dick – but let them know! If you misunderstood something that caused an issue – admit it! If you think the guy at your gym is hot – tell him he should take you out on a date! Tell your mom you love her before you hang up the phone. Tell your friend you appreciate them for listening to you complain. Practice genuine, healthy honesty, be direct, and always practice gratitude. All will go a long way with everyone you interact with daily.
Happy almost birthday to me, again. This has to stop happening every year…